In my introduction under the About page, I highlight the importance of confidence and the role it plays in how we see ourselves. Our level of confidence will ultimately influence the way in which we communicate and interact with the external world.
Like a mirror, the internal image we hold about ourselves will reflect and manifest externally. However, we can influence our confidence by building a more positive image about ourselves from the outside in. We are not born with confidence but develop it over time and it is never too late to build a greater level of self-confidence or to rediscover lost confidence.
The internal work in developing a greater sense of confidence involves becoming aware of the internal comments, statements and truths we make about ourselves on a daily basis. These will be personal to each one of us, but they are likely to include statements such as: “I’m no good at that” (whatever “that” means to you), “I can’t do that”, “I’m too old to wear that, begin that”, etc.”. Fill in your own negative truths. We need to remember that the thoughts we hold about ourselves will manifest our experiences and lived lives. The external has to reflect the internal.
Looking and behaving as though we are confident will eventually result in us feeling more confident. Our posture and body language communicate to the world how confident we feel about ourselves. We can look confident even though we may not always feel it, and the care we take with our appearance will go a very long way in communicating confidence.
Our appearance starts with our personal grooming and the first thing to create and maintain is a skin care regime. So many older women give up on themselves and reduce or stop using makeup altogether. Applying makeup is even more important now than what it was in our younger days.
Makeup is a great way to enhance our attributes and reduce or hide areas we are not too happy with, such as blemishes or age spots. Makeup goes a long way in giving us confidence in our appearance. By giving up on makeup we collude with the external world that we become invisible as we get older. This is not true, and we should not behave as though it is!
We also hugely underestimate the power of colour on our moods and emotions, whether that is reflected in the makeup we use to enhance and add to our skin colour or the colour of the garments we wear. If you feel you have become invisible, take a long hard look at your wardrobe and the colours, or lack of it, that is reflected back to you.
Just one accessory, whether it is a piece of jewellery, a scarf or a lovely colour lipstick that blends with your skin tone, will go a long way in boosting your confidence and how you feel about yourself. This is not frivolous indulgence but a wonderful source of personal expression!